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I have come to the conclusion in my quest to find the perfect someone for me that there is no one person who is perfect.
A relationship is like buying a car. Every vehicle out there in the automotive industry has its flaws. Some people buy a car for the audio system knowing that the windows don't always work but they are OK with that. They know that there is no way to change design flaws but they love their car unconditionally anyway.
Relationships are the same way. When deciding to deal with someone in a relationship you are making the decision to accept the person flaws and all. You cannot change a person. They have to be the ones to make a choice to change and know it will not come over night. There are the few who say they will change but really don't want to. These people are just saying that to get off your back. Showing is proving. Talking about doing something until you are blue in the face is only wasting good clean air.
The above mentioned are personality flaws. I just want to briefly hit on physical flaws. If a person is ugly in your eyes (we all know beauty is in the eyes of the beholder). No matter how much you dress them up. No matter how much they lose weight or gain nice big muscles. You will always think they are ugly. If you dress up a dog it is still a dog. It is true a person could be ugly but have a heart of gold but how far can you take that? Do you take ol pug face to the alter? Knowing you have to wake up to them for the rest of your life?
I guess I am saying do not lower your standards of what you will like just so you are not lonely. Compromising certain things does not necessarily mean lowering your standards. So when getting to know someone, take a step back and ask yourself this; Are the flaws that the person possesses those flaws that I know I can deal with in the long run? If not then reconsider wasting every ones time. You can save yourself and another person possibly a lot of heart ache.
Hopefully I made sense to some... What do you guys think?
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